1:1 Coaching Program
Date & Find Love
You Want A Healthy, Loving & Fulfilling Relationship.
You Want To Feel Safe & Protected When Dating.
You Want To Stop Wasting Time Dating The Wrong People.
You Want To Feel Deserving Of Love.
You Want To Actually Enjoy Dating & Have It Lead To Love.
You want to date & find love - the fun, healthy, safe, & empowering way.
You know you don't want to be with another narcissist, but jumping from an unfulfilling relationship, to a healthy, loving one, seems like too big a leap.
You don't really know what a healthy relationship is.
A small (or large!) part of you still craves for someone to come & rescue you.
You are not sure you can trust yourself to walk away if something's not right.
You are worried you might get hurt, & you don't want to get your heart broken.
You have tended to loose yourself in your previous romantic relationships.
You are not sure how to have healthy communication with a partner.
You wonder if it is safe to date again.
You are not sure if you are attracted to healthy people.
You think dating someone healthy might be boring.
You are not 100% sure that you deserve to find love.
You have tended to idolise romantic interests & get overly fixated on one person.
You tend to over focus on your partner in a relationship.
You wonder if you'll ever feel truly confident to express yourself 100%.
You wonder if you are enough (ready enough, attractive enough, young enough, intelligent enough, healthy enough e.t.c.) to date & find love.
You tend to feel anxious & vulnerable in close romantic relationships.
You wonder if you are too insecure & sensitive to date & find love.
You struggle to voice your true feelings, even when you want to.
You doubt if there are good people available - "surely all the good ones are taken?".
You are not sure if it is possible for you to find love.
Wanting to move on with your life to a brighter future can bring up all sorts of fears, doubts & worries.
These doubts & worries are completely normal, even after you've been healing for a while.
Plus, the psychological patterns that had you dating a narcissist & people pleasing also had you missing out on the valuable experience of a healthy relationship:
They attuned your body to expect to be swept off your feet - & to find healthy people boring.
They clouded your ability to feel deserving of real love.
They robbed you of the experience of knowing what true love feels like.
They didn't allow you to learn how to communicate in healthy ways.
They didn't allow you to recognise the difference between healthy & unhealthy love.
You Are Not Alone
I understand what it’s like to want to experience dating & finding love, whilst simultaneously feeling completely held back by your past.
It left me feeling like I missed out on the normal dating experience, and I was also going to miss out on being in a supportive, loving, healthy relationship in the future (and everything that can come with that - marriage, children e.t.c...)
My previous difficulties with narcissistic people prevented me from having fulfilling relationships with healthy individuals, and that lead to me believing that love was not possible for me. Especially because a part of me still found narcissists attractive.
(I honestly thought my best option was to become a 'dog lady').
I know I'm not the only one.
Many people with a history of narcissistic abuse find themselves either becoming serial daters of narcissists or other inappropriate people, or they close off their heart & swear off dating for good, therefore swearing off the possibility of finding love. I have seen this happen over and over again. But neither of these are helpful in our pursuit of having a healthy, loving & supportive relationship, they just stall us even further.
When it comes to finding love, experiencing narcissistic abuse & being a people pleaser really has you on the back foot.
But it really doesn't have to be this way. Narcissistic abuse & the lack of love that comes with it doesn't have to be a life sentence.
It is completely overcome-able.
It's possible to unlearn what has been holding you back from experiencing healthy love & to learn how to have a healthy relationship. You can learn how to date confidently, safely & strategically so you can feel loved & supported in a relationship - whilst feeling completely worthy & deserving of love.
Let me introduce myself:
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Coach
I spent 5 years studying Psychology at College & University before training as a hypnotherapist and life coach.
I specialize in helping people break out of unhealthy relationship patterns that are creating unnecessary suffering in their life.
I help them learn healthy relationship patterns & feel calm, confident, in control, & totally worthy & deserving of love.
I also help them discover how to date safely & effectively so they can have a loving relationship - and also have fun & enjoy themselves along the way.
I created this specific program because I know how much of a struggle relationships can be for people who have experienced narcissistic abuse, especially if they are highly sensitive people pleasers.
I know the in's and out's of recovery, including learning to date in order to have healthy relationships. I know this from my own past experience and from working with clients - kind, sensitive, capable people whose relationship patterns brought them a level of pain & confusion that destroyed their inner peace, & day by day robbed them of experiencing genuine, real connection & love.
My coaching isn't a band aid solution. It's about getting to root of the issue and helping you make shifts that change how you think, feel and behave, for good, coupled with tried & tested dating strategy, that actually works.
Working with Marie was life changing!
I absolutely recommend Marie to anyone who wants to change their life! If you’re feeling stuck, Marie can help you see the problem and overcome your obstacles.
I never imagined hypnotherapy to be this effective but I guess with the right therapist you can achieve amazing results and change in a short period of time.
I enjoyed working with Marie in every way. Working with Marie will change your life. So be ready for the change. Marie is amazing!! ❤️❤️❤️
“Really Helped Me Heal”
“I'm absolutely loving the dating after narcissistic abuse course. I'm getting so much out of it. I've watched the first video three times and completed the workbook before I move on to the next lesson because this way I will get the most out of this course. Thank you so much Marie, you've really helped me heal already.”
"“I Now Have The Communication Skills And Confidence I Need To Express Myself"
Before working with Marie, I was struggling with a lack of emotional support in my life. My circumstances were bringing up a lot of past pain and trauma that I realized I hadn’t fully dealt with.
I knew I needed support to process these past experiences in a safe container and this is when I discovered Marie’s Inside Out program. My sessions with Marie helped me feel heard and seen. She has such a warm and calming presence and I felt very safe to fully express myself with her and that’s exactly what I was looking for, especially since I had some trauma to unpack.
I really appreciated the combination of coaching and hypnosis that Marie provided in our sessions because it gave me the opportunity to express myself and then go in and dig a little deeper and heal my past wounds. The combination was powerful and gave me lasting results that I am still benefiting from.
Thanks to the Inside Out program and working with Marie, I now have the communication skills and confidence I need to express myself so my emotions don’t become suppressed and I also know how to set healthy boundaries with others. This has not only helped me to take the next step forward as an entrepreneur, but it has also helped me to improve my relationship with myself, my romantic partnership, my friendships, and my family relationships, which has been a huge bonus! I've had more confidence to do things outside of my comfort zone and to take action steps to live my dreams now!
I highly recommend working with Marie if you’re someone who would like to heal from the inside out and strengthen yourself and your relationships along the way!
My Dating History
Throughout my childhood, teens & into my 20's & 30's, I'd find myself getting 'a bit obsessed' with certain people on more than one occasion, I'd put them on a pedestal, think about how amazing they were, & escape into a fantasy world where they'd recognise me back & we'd have an amazing friendship or relationship. I wasted hours in this escapist dream land.
Then, when I was still a child, I was groomed into a relationship with an older man. Later, I had a couple of serious relationships with narcissists, & a few brief relationships with a handful more.
It wasn't all unhealthy, there were some experiences with nice guys too, but overall, when I did meet a nice guy, I didn't stay interested in them. I kind of wanted to 'change' a bad guy into a good guy...(& we know how badly that works out!) My experience did not adequately set me up to know what a healthy, or unhealthy relationship was.
Relationship's With Narcissists
Between the serious relationships & the brief affairs, I experienced 'different kinds' of narcissists, some confident, some vulnerable.
Here's some of the stuff I experienced: Blunt insults followed by an equally confusing "just kidding", or completely delayed responses (aka the silent treatment). I'd hear things like, "You are worthless, you have achieved nothing", & "It's your job as a women to cook & take care of me" (when I was also the main source of income) - ugh. If I brought up an issue, I was told it was making them feel bad about themselves. The actual issue wouldn't be acknowledged & would go unresolved. They'd look at me with smugness or disgust, or they'd look straight through me as if I wasn't there. I hankered after warmth, hugs & affection. If I didn't like something, they wouldn't care how I felt, or they'd make threats that they'd leave the relationship. On a daily basis, I'd wonder if they were going to insult, hurt, rage, ignore or withdraw affection from me.
This is where I learned all about going no contact, breaking the trauma bond, overcoming the PTSD anxiety/ fear symptoms & growing my self worth.
I also had a relationship with someone emotionally unavailable - which, after experiencing narcissistic abuse, was actually a relief. I was very tempted to settle into it & 'just be grateful' that I wasn't with a narcissist. But ultimately, I really craved more from a relationship. More connection, more love, more support, more affection, more togetherness.
Entering Narcissism Groundhog Day
I dated on and off for a couple of years but I just could not seem to shake the pattern of attracting, and being attracted to narcissists - it was happening more frequently than for it to just be a coincidence.
Listening To The Call
I took the fact that I kept being attracted to narcissists & other inappropriate people as a sign that I had more healing to do. I worked on myself a lot, in hypnotherapy, coaching, psychotherapy & by myself.
Researching Love & Dating
After a focused period of inner work I started to explore dating & finding love again. I decided to find out how to date safely AND in a way that would lead to a loving & healthy relationship.
Of course when I first started, I didn't have much of a clue. I didn't know if I could trust myself to stay away from bad guys, or to judge if someone even was a bad guy, but one thing I was sure of, & that was, I was going to figure it out.
I combined my dating & relationship research with my own training in hypnotherapy and developed a system that combined the inner work needed to be able to form a healthy relationship with practical steps for how to actually date safely & effectively. And as I continued to research & test what I was learning in the real world, it became apparent that I was really onto something.
I completely trusted in the process, and I was right to. It led to me meeting my now husband.
I've been married to David for over 5 years. When we first got married he said to me "I want to make you feel special everyday". After 5 years, I have to say, he has achieved that. No more extreme highs & lows, just consistent love, support, adoration & respect.
My Relationship With My Husband
So what is our relationship like? If I were to reflect on my relationship, I'd probably need to give you a 'cheese' alert! It's very affectionate, supportive, sweet & loving. Life together is about simple pleasures and adventures. Whatever we do, it usually involves us laughing & giggling throughout the day, sprinkled with a lot of hugs & affection. I feel 100% confident of our connection & our commitment. I have NEVER experienced an insult or rage, never being ignored or had affection withheld - ever, even when we disagree about something (which isn't very often).
When we are apart, I receive sweet messages throughout the day, like "I love you so very muchy" "You're so 'mazing' "I miss you" along with "How you feeling? & "How is your day going?" Honestly, he has over 15+ pet names for me & uses them all often, (but I spared the pet names here!) He even made up a word because he said there wasn't a word in the english language that adequately described how wonderful I am. What a sweetheart.
He says things like, "I am so proud of you" & "You should take a load off and do something nice for yourself." He supports my goals such as developing Revelation Therapy & helping others to heal & live wonderful lives after narcissistic abuse. He is the one that suggested I start a YouTube channel & he offered to edit the videos (which was a massive help since I'm recovering from an injury.) I feel seen, heard, supported, loved, adored, fulfilled, admired, appreciated & taken care of. I love how he looks at me with adoring, sparkly light blue eyes. Don't say I didn't warn you with the cheese alert!
Helping You Find Your Perfect
I found the relationship of my dreams using the framework that I now teach. But you don't need to figure it out, because in the Love Life Program, I share my exact method with you.
My dream relationship, (sweet, cheesy & fun!) might not be the kind of relationship that you want. I work with you on how to get ready for a healthy relationship & find your perfect partner. And that might look very different to my relationship. One thing's for sure though, it will be based on a solid foundation of love, respect, kindness & support & whatever else you want. No more narcissism!
Do you want someone special in your life that consistently shows you that they love, care and support you?
Do you want to finally move onto healthy love?
Do You Want Make Life Changing Shifts & Learn How To Implement Powerful Dating Strategy That Will Allow Real Love Into Your Life?
This is what the Love Life Program is created for.
Feel worthy & deserving of love.
Know what true love feels like.
Understand how to give AND receive love in a mutually beneficial relationship.
Feel safe to date.
Be able to trust.
Know how to have a healthy relationship.
Stop fearing rejection & caring whether or not they like you.
Feel loved & supported everyday.
Understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy love.
Feel confident knowing when it's time to move the relationship to the next step.
Express yourself with confidence & ease
Own your worth & feel deserving of love.
Date on your terms.
Feel confident meeting people & dating.
Feel secure in who you are & what you think & feel.
Know how to communicate your feelings in a healthy, productive way.
Know how to get your needs met in a relationship.
Let go of beliefs that you are not good enough or it is not possible e.t.c.
Feel complete trust in the process of finding love.
Feel confident to communicate & set boundaries.
Feel ready to find a wonderful loving partner
Know the exact practical steps to take to make it happen.
The 'Love Life' program
will help you:
"I can highly recommend working with Marie. If you are willing to change, she will be a compassionate guide and she will offer you such a powerful transformation with her hypnotherapy & coaching."
"I was surprised by how much of a big impact it has had in my life."
"I can really see the change the sessions with Marie had on my life. I was willing to step up for myself and what I want & need in a way that I hadn’t before."
Trying To Cope
It's likely that you have attempted to handle your love life yourself, drawing on tools & coping mechanisms to help you. You've taken breaks from dating, moved on, gotten over them, dug in and done some healing work to get over them and to get over being a people pleaser, you've learned the red flags of dating & narcissistic behaviors, read books on dating, love & relationships as well as codependency & self development, given yourself pep talks, self coaching & affirmations, & maybe tried some alternative healing modalities, yoga, self-care, energy work, tarot reading, cosmic ordering e.t.c.
This stuff is all fine, some of it might have really helped (& some of it may have also harmed), but it hasn't brought you what you want - an actual healthy loving relationship. You still have confusion around if & when this is going to happen for you. And what you can do to bring it into your life.
It's not that you are doing anything wrong
It's just that narcissistic abuse is literally the complete opposite of a healthy relationship. Plus, people pleasing & codependency are learned patterns that don't just go away after the narcissist.
So even when you've left a narcissistic abuse situation, you can't just do a complete 180 & jump straight into a healthy way of relating. You need to learn how to date & have a healthy relationship, step by step.
The mind can also be tricky when it comes to changing our habitual behaviour.
It's a situation with a nuance and complexity that can't be understood through an analysis of narcissistic relationships, or an analysis of regular people in relationships.
Your journey to a healthy relationship needs to take into account where you have come from AND where you want to go.
I help you bridge that gap.
If this sounds complicated, it's not. This is actually really simple and will be achieved one step at a time.
My coaching works because it actually helps you to move past previous events & conditioning & change how you think, feel and behave - in yourself & in relationships - for the better. Plus I drip-feed you a practical roadmap for you to follow to journey yourself into healthy relationships. During coaching, I'm also in your back pocket, or tucked away in your hand bag, accessible straight from your phone for 4 months. This gives you the time and consistency you need to have deep breakthroughs and make lasting change.
Our relationships are a huge part of our identities, our life experience & our life satisfaction & happiness. If you have experienced narcissistic abuse, you have suffered enough. Enough crap relationships already! You do not need to suffer unnecessarily in underwhelming relationships for your entire life.
The 1:1 Love Life Coaching Program
x12 - 90 minute 1:1 sessions with me on Zoom. We'll dive in deep and get you out of any residual unhealthy patterns & into healthy ones. The Zoom sessions are designed for breakthroughs. My coaching & hypnotherapy hones in on your specific circumstance and blocks, helping you to quickly move through these issues. I'll also walk you through each step of the practical dating strategy.
Session Follow Up - I will check in with you after each session. I will send you any relevant information to reinforce your breakthroughs & help you fully implement changes throughout the week. This will include things like dating strategy exercises & other customized exercises...
Tailored Resources - I will provide recommended resources specific to your needs (videos, podcasts, books, & articles) to expedite your progress and reinforce the areas that need the most attention and transformation.
Bite Sized Coaching - As you move through your week, implement the session breakthroughs & complete the dating strategy exercises, you may have questions arise or new challenges pop up - you reach out, I respond. The bite sized coach recordings allow me to offer you coaching support within 24 hours of any given situation or concern.
Investment: $1400 USD
"I really, really want to recommend to you to work with Marie-Claire if you've been through narcissistic abuse, she knows her stuff."
I went through so much healing in only one session."
"Marie's hypnotherapy style is very calming and I love listening to her voice while she guides me through strong transformations.
"Working with Marie opened my life up to more freedom."
"Marie made connections and helped me understand things at a deeper level."
"Marie was born to do this!"
"Marie is a fantastic facilitator, creating a relaxing and healing experience I would recommend to anyone."
"I was unsure if Marie would be able to fully understand my struggles, but I was proved wrong."
"Marie has an amazing way of holding space and intuiting what is needed for the moment to facilitate real healing work."
I think of this Love Life coaching program as the ultimate dating & finding love intensive - combining the best of internal work with external dating strategy.
If You Want To Accelerate Your Way To A Healthy Loving Relationship - Love Life Will Help Fast-track You There.
Love Life will help you feel confident, ready, deserving, believe, know & trust that you can and you will date & find love, plus gives you the action steps & trouble shooting in order to do that.
If you have already proven that you can:
Get over the narcissist
Do your share of healing work
Spend ample time focusing on yourself
'Do your time' being single
You have already proven that you can take bold action!
AND YOU CAN DO THIS TO!
This Love Life Program is for you if you are ready (or ready to get ready) to welcome true love into your life.
It is for you if you want to figure out dating & finding love, so can finally have that love relationship.
If you would like to work with me...
Let's meet for a complimentary introductory session. We'll talk about your situation and your goals, and you'll get to experience a free taste of hypnotherapy. We will both get a good idea of what working together will be like.
If it’s a fit - we will then get you signed up!
(I don't know how long I will include this offer for a free hypnotherapy trial included as part of the introductory call, so if thats something you'd like to benefit from, book now to avoid disappointment).
"I really appreciated the combination of coaching and hypnosis that Marie provided in our sessions because it gave me the opportunity to express myself and then go in and dig a little deeper and heal my past wounds. The combination was powerful and gave me lasting results that I am still benefiting from."
Are payment plans available?
Yes, there is a 3 month payment plan option.
Can I record the calls?
Yes. We will have sessions on Zoom. By default, I don't record calls but there is a recording option available on request.
How do I sign up?
Once we do an introductory call and know it's a fit, I will provide you with the information to sign up.
What if I feel like I only need a couple of sessions?
Having personally gone through the healing journey and coached others struggling, I know how long it takes to make changes needed to get you feeling and functioning better. It's not just a quick fix session here and there to feel a little bit better & drag your healing process out over a number of years (like I did!!).
This is not band-aid coaching. This program is a complete breakthrough, which is just what is needed after this kind of a relationship. This is an investment in lasting results that you can take with you throughout your life, and throughout all of your relationships.
You have three programs, where shall I start?
My programs have been designed in the following order:
Step 1. Narc Detox.
Step 2. Heal After The Narcissist.
Step 3. Love Life - Date & Find Love After Healing.
If you relate to all the programs, start with the first step.
It's really important to follow the process in this order & not skip any steps because each program builds on the one before. It's normal for some people to want to skip ahead to step 3 but it's really important not too. The Love Life program is designed for people who have already moved on from toxic relationships in their past & invested in healing themselves from narcissistic abuse.
I haven't completed any of your other coaching programs with you, can I do this one?
Yes! As long as you have completed steps similar to those in the Narc Detox & Heal After The Narcissist programs, with say another coach or therapist, or you are currently completing thoose steps. I will ask clarifying questions to ensure you are entering the right level program before enrolling you.
Can you tell me more about hypnotherapy?
Yes! I've made a separate section answering your hypnotherapy questions which you can find below.
Questions About Hypnotherapy
What is hypnotherapy?
When I look at the word hypnotherapy I see the combination of two words, 'hypno', as in hypnosis, and therapy. I explain hypnosis below. And in this instance therapy could be thought of as making something better.
Hypnotherapy uses the naturally occurring state of hypnosis to access the subconscious mind to help us in some way. Our subconscious mind is the part of us involved in our emotions, beliefs, instincts, & automatic, habitual & instinctual behaviours. Sometimes, like if we have had a toxic relationship, our subconscious emotions, habitual thoughts e.t.c need an update, just like when we need to update our computer software to help it function better! That's where hypnotherapy comes in.
What is hypnosis & what is it like?
The hypnotic state is actually a normal everyday occurrence. When we are engrossed in an activity we enjoy like reading a book, watching a movie, playing a sport, dancing, or creating something - we are in a form of hypnosis. If you've ever driven somewhere and arrived at your destination, but you don't really consciously remembered the journey of how you got there, or if you've ever had the feeling of falling asleep - whilst also being somewhat aware of the environment you are in - you have experienced a form of hypnosis.
The hypnotic state is what we experience when we are in the R.E.M sleep state which is when we dream at night - and at that time we are totally immersed in our experience of another world. Interestingly, when we are growing in our mother's womb, we spend three months in this R.E.M. state. This is where we learn our unconscious instincts, - which are essential for our survival. In hypnotherapy, this natural state is utilised in order to update our emotional processing, beliefs, and habits so we can live a more satisfying life.
Why are you using hypnotherapy as part of this package?
Because it works! It makes the process of desired change & healing more effective, for me & for you! If you've ever tried to make a change in your life with just will power alone - you might have experienced how difficult it can be! That's why it's so beneficial to get the subconscious on board as well with hypnosis. Coaching and things like journalling definitely still reach the subconscious mind but the hypnotic state can bring about changes more efficiently by going straight to the root of a problem. Hypnotherapy also has added benefits like helping you to relax, feel calm & grounded & soothe the mind & body - which we often really need, especially after narcissistic abuse.
Isn't hypnotherapy weird?
I don't think so, I think it's a fundamental part of psychology. But there are lot of misconceptions about hypnotherapy that perhaps gave it a weird reputation. This probably stems from how it's been used in public entertainment where stage hypnotists get people to do things like cluck like chickens! (Which is weird!) But that's only a very tiny percent of how hypnosis is used. Also, only a small percent of people (outgoing people who actually want to) would actually cluck like a chicken on a stage in a room full of people. And stage hypnotists are very skilled at picking them.
When the hypnotic state is used in a Hypno-therapeutic setting, or even in self hypnosis, it is such a powerful tool we can all use to change our lives for the better, and that's not weird, it's wonderful! Also, if stage hypnotherapists can get people to cluck like chickens, imagine the power this tool has for other productive changes! Which is how I like to use it.
Are you going to get me to do something I don't want?
No, never. The way I use hypnotherapy depend on the person I'm with & the desired outcome, but oftentimes it might feel like a relaxing story time with pauses for your input - conversation's where you tell me what YOU are experiencing & I then work with you on what YOU want & need in order to move forward.
Are you going to heal me?
Yes and no. I am going to guide you to heal yourself.
What else can you tell me about what working with you?
I'm a gentle, permissive kind of therapist. I certainly will not force you to do anything, but don't mistake gentle for not being powerful. I'll work with you at your pace along your path. I'll be a guide on your own journey to get where you want & what you want.
Where and why did you become a Hypnotherapist and a Life Coach?
I have a background in Psychology. I studied it for 5 years in the U.K & the U.S.A, and I was considering becoming a Psychologist. However, I didn't want to work in a clinical setting with severe mental health issues. I wanted to work with the general population - & as funny as it might sound now (because where I live now in Australia there are 'heaps' of general Psychologists), back then, the path to doing that was not clear to me.
I also took it to heart when I was told that I was too young & inexperienced to help others & I should 'get some life experience'. Pretty soon, my life then led me into the arms of a narcissist!
During this time, I experienced hypnotherapy a few times and I always found it to be a fascinating experience. Then when I was struggling to move on from this relationship, I had a hypnotherapy session (energetic cord cutting). And I was blown away with the transformation. It really helped me leave the relationship in the past and reclaim my energy.
After the session, I had a light bulb moment. This was what I was wanted to be do with my life. I decided to become a hypnotherapist myself. Experiencing hypnotherapy had given me answers I had not found elsewhere. And there was something about the felt experience of it. Something inside me said 'this works' & it really intrigued me.
I took my time getting to my own training, which I started a few years after in 2013 at the London Institute of Clinical Hypnosis.
I had wanted to heal myself first before working with others. But I've since realised it isn't about being fully healed, but perhaps instead about being 'healed enough' - healed enough to stop doing the dance with narcissists, healed enough to have healthier relationship, healed enough to make better choices e.t.c.
Since my initial training, I've added further training in hypnotherapy & life coaching, including the rewind trauma technique. This field intrigues me so much & I always enjoy learning more through further study, courses, reading, and life experience.